People are often warned to be careful what they put out on the Internet because it will never, ever disappear.
Sometimes, though, having a post linger for years and years can be a good thing.
Take, for example, the experience of a Kentucky man, David Arbuckle, and a Fort Wayne woman, Charlene Kaufman.
In 1997, Arbuckle approached a genealogical researcher in Hartford, Ky., and asked her to put a small message online. Seeking information on Olive Mae Munsell who married Kenneth Hoover, was all it said.
Years passed. Arbuckle, a coal miner, heard nothing and dropped his search.
In Fort Wayne, though, Kaufman had gotten into genealogy. Shed searched her family history and discovered they were related to someone who had come to America on the Mayflower.
One day late last year Kaufman typed in her mothers name on Google and what popped up but that 1997 post of someone else looking for Olive Mae Munsell.
Who would be looking for my mother, who died 22 years ago? Kaufman asked herself
So she called a cousin and asked what he knew. You have a brother whos been looking for you, the cousin told Kaufman. Hes been looking for six years. Hed called wanting to know where Olive Munsell was and whether she had any other children. The cousin told the caller no and never let Kaufman know about the call.
The cat had been let out of the bag, though, and last week Kaufman and her two children traveled to Kentucky, where she met her brother for the first time and they heard the whole story.
Arbuckle was born to Olive Munsell in Anderson, and one day his father picked him up and dropped him off at the Indiana Soldiers and Sailors Childrens Home, an orphanage. Arbuckle has no idea why.
About three years later his father retrieved him from the orphanage and moved to Kentucky, where he lived with a woman for a short time before he disappeared. Later, that woman turned Arbuckle over to a woman in her 60s, who raised him.
Arbuckle, who is now 68 and 12 years older than Kaufman, has never had a picture of his mother. He had no idea what she looked like. He didnt know whether his father snatched him away from her out of spite and put him in the orphanage or what.
But he wondered. Where was his mother? Thats why he made the original post.
Kaufman, after visiting with her brother, called him a great and productive person, despite being handed off from person to person in his early years.
He had been in the military and worked in the mines for 30 years and is now retired, Kaufman said.
Meeting her brother for the first time was surreal and stirred difficult emotions, Kaufman said.
How could you abandon your child? she asked. Weve both been cheated. Hes getting up in years, but we can make the most of it.
Arbuckle, contacted at his home in Beaver Dam, Ky., said he was in his preteen years when he started asking questions about his family.
But I was always given negative information, Arbuckle said.
His dad, who would occasionally contact him, said there were no other kids, even though there was another son who has since died.
I gave up, and fortunately she didnt, Arbuckle said. She kept chugging away.
When asked about meeting his sister, Arbuckle said its been fantastic.
Shes a wonderful person, a beautiful person, He said.
Most men want brothers so they can hunt and fish together, Arbuckle said. But I always wanted a sister.
Plenty of mystery still surrounds it all, both say.
For some reason there was a lot of secrecy in the family, Arbuckle said. Why did they get rid of me? Theres a lot of wondering, and some hurt that he has learned to bury throughout his life.
Now, Kaufman has met the brother she didnt know she had, and hes met the sister he always wanted.
If I had sat down and drawn a picture of what he would want his sister to be like, it couldnt have been more perfect, Arbuckle said. I had always thought how wonderful it would be to have a brother or sister. Now I got my wish.