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Relationship can survive pain of deployment

Deployments are hard. You miss your husband so badly that there is actually a physical pain. You cry yourself to sleep sometimes. You sleep with their shirt sprayed with their cologne just so you don’t forget what they smell like.

When disasters happen, you have to face them on your own. You are told to keep things to yourself so as to not distract your soldier from the mission they are currently on – that you have to be strong because you are a military spouse.

You miss the little things: kissing, holding hands, their snoring, even arguing. You miss intimacy.

At 25, wills are being written and at 26, wills are being signed. Eventually, if you’re lucky, numbness sets in and you don’t feel anything.

This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. This is the most pain I have ever been in. It has been more than 250 days since I have seen him, touched him, smelled him or felt his arms wrapped around me. This is his second tour. It’s hard to be alone, to live in a four-bedroom house with no children. It is hard to be afraid every single day.

What isn’t difficult, though, is staying faithful. The deployment hurts. It downright sucks. Just remember; it’s a year. One year. Keep your vows. Don’t let your marriage fail because you don’t think you can handle the stress anymore or because you can’t stay celibate. It’s a year.

Deployments suck. But your relationship, your marriage, is worth it.


Dedicated teacher still contributes in retirement

It should be noted that Larry Lesh, a retired but hardworking teacher/mentor, has been producing award-winning academic teams in Fort Wayne for many years. He has brought much acclaim and credit to the Fort Wayne school system and is a crown jewel in the community. Both of my granddaughters were on his national-level teams – one placed third in the nation and one won the national championship.

Both the Christopher Columbus competition of the June 1 article (“Turning pop bottle into light”) and the related eCYBERMISSION are challenging, high-level contests requiring dedication, skill and teamwork. Lesh is to be commended for his caring for our students.

HENRY WHITNEY Leo-Cedarville

Put your pride on display on Flag Day on Friday

When I was growing up in Fort Wayne, Flag Day was very special day. There was never a flagpole without a flag. People lined the streets to see the parade all along Calhoun Street. It consisted of all the American Legion posts, VFW and DAV posts, clowns and horses from the Shrine Circus, fireman and trucks, the police department, mayor and other city officials, high school bands, Boy and Girl Scouts, and other different organizations also participated.

Have we forgotten the meaning of our American flag? It is a symbol of our great nation that represents not only who we are but also what we stand for and what we believe. We started with only 13 colonies that stood against the oppression of the British Empire. These United States grew to be the greatest nation in the entire world.

Our flag reminds us of our proud beginnings and of our resolve to be free. For more than 200 years the American flag has been the symbol of our nation’s strength and unity. Let us not ever forget those who sacrificed life and limb to give us opportunity to uphold those ideals.

So on Flag Day (June 14), fly your flag. There is a Flag Code that sets out the days that are particularly appropriate to display the flag, but I personally fly mine proudly every day. Then thank God that you live in the United States of America. I am an 88-year-old World War II and Korean War vet.