Coping skills required of military spouses
My heart went out to the young military wife whose husband deployed and left her alone in a big house with no children (Relationship can survive pain of deployment, June 10).
Being alone is a bummer and it sucks, and I know how she feels.
I was a military wife for 37 years, 28 of which were while he was on active duty. I was naive about being a military wife; all I knew was what was in the movies and I thought it was glamorous.
What a joke. I didnt know it, but I was soon to be introduced. But I coped; for years I coped with driving to airports in the rainy night. With three children I coped. Seven times across country I coped – four with three children and a dog.
Finally, I was such a good coper that I handled a childs tonsillectomy and another with spinal meningitis by myself. I was a damn good coper.
So, I surely wasnt all alone. I was one busy person coping.
Finally, my man decided to retire after 28 years in the service of his country.
Now, that became a challenge to my coping skills. My man was going to become a civilian. However, the poor man no longer had a book of operations. My book was full of coping skills.
Well, that lasted about 10 years, and I took my coping skills elsewhere.
So, my dear lonely wife, be thankful for what you have and dont have. And get a job, volunteer, start a business, go back to school. Anything that will give you some coping skills.
MARGARET DUNWELL Fort Wayne
Hours-shifting shows need for single payer
Sen. Joe Donnelly wants to file a bill describing full-time work as 40 hours a week. My wife works 35 hours per week and is considered full time, but I can see that her company could justify taking away her health insurance after Jan. 1 and using this new law as justification.
The Affordable Care Act was set up at 30 hours to force less-than-responsible employers to provide insurance, but by cutting hours they found a way to pocket more money at their employees expense.
Donnelly should introduce a bill that taxes employers on a per-hour basis for health coverage so it is no more economical to have two 20-hour-per-week people than one 40-hour person. If this were the case, more companies would be giving people more hours, not fewer.
We need a single-payer option.
LEE POWELL Leo-Cedarville
Trip unconscionable with debt still soaring
I was upset when President Obama took his wife to New York on a date several years ago. The cost to us taxpayers for air flights and Secret Service had to be expensive. Why not celebrate in the White House? They have one of the best chefs in the world.
Now he is taking his entire family on his trip to Africa. They will visit many places, all with Secret Service. An aircraft carrier will be on the coast of Africa for medical emergencies.
Our country is in debt $3 trillion. Why cant he vacation at Camp David or somewhere in the beautiful U.S.A.?
MARILYN PHILLIPS Fort Wayne