FORT WAYNE – Its the moment youve dreaded, or the moment youve anticipated.
It marks the proud beginning of your child exiting the front door and entering the vast world, or its the feared first chapter of his or her independence for which you may not be ready.
In a few, short weeks, he or she will be venturing into preschool or kindergarten; the time when your little one takes a large step.
Maybe youre a veteran of this process; that you have one or two who breeze through the once-strange hallways with such confidence now they could serve as the schools tour guide (To your left is the boys bathroom. And over here is our library, which features the Richard Scarry collection. ). But what if this is all new; that while your child seems to be holding up well, you, the parent, are a mess, and the sheer thought of leaving him or her inside this huge building is frightening?
Deb Hughes, director of the Kiddie Prep School in Fort Wayne, says rule No. 1 is not to make a production of leaving your kid. If youre going to cry, take it outside.
The young people now who are having children have a tendency to be kind of hoverers, Hughes says. When you go into an environment, and youre hovering over your children, youre actually giving them a message that youre nervous about this and have a little bit of fear. I always tell the parents, You need to come in like this is the next best thing to sliced bread.
With a new school season closing in fast, heres a list of dos and donts for you and your child:
Arrange a meeting. Contact your preschool and meet your childs teacher, suggests KidSpot.com. An adults-only meeting is OK, then bring your child to the school to meet the teacher and check out the school.
All work and no play Acquainting your child with the school can be a slow process. Drive by a couple times, and point out that this is where hell be soon. As part of the facilitys tour, Hughes says make sure the playground is part of the visit. Itll get them excited to play there.
Get to know their classmates. After your child is enrolled and youre just a few weeks from school starting, organize a play date with other children in the class, says KidSpot.com.
Have a timetable. As best you can, find out your childs class structure. She might not comprehend completely if you tell her youll be back in three hours, but if you say youll be back after the days last story, shell have a better of idea when to expect you.
Just the facts. For those going into kindergarten or a little younger, they should know their address, a telephone number and the first names of their parents. Putting all that information to song helps them remember more easily. Of course, the school will have that on file, but kids dont always know that.