There comes a time when, if we are lucky enough to have our parents with us when they get elderly, they will require help we may not be able to give. It may be a nursing home, rehabilitation facility or hospital.
To those who have a loved one being cared for outside of the home, I give this advice: Never assume anything. Question everything.
The best thing you can do is to visit and visit frequently. Do it at different times of the day and on different days.
Check to see that the proper medication is being given.
Instead of asking “Did she eat all her breakfast?,” drop by as breakfast is finishing and check the food tray.
Check for bedsores. A person lying a bed all day may get a severe infection.
Please do not take this as a blanket condemnation of all nursing homes or hospitals. There are many excellent ones staffed by people who honestly care about their guests. Unfortunately, there are some that are not excellent and even those may have some employees who need your scrutiny.
You can’t just ship Mom off and expect everything will be the way it was when you cared for her. No matter how hard the employees try, they will never love your mother or care about her the way you do.
DANNY WALCHLE Fort Wayne